Loving Yourself After Years of Criticism: Hearing God’s Voice Again

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When Criticism Becomes Your Inner Voice

There comes a point where you are no longer hearing what people said. You are hearing what you have started saying to yourself. After years of criticism, the voice in your head begins to sound familiar, almost like the people who hurt you left an echo behind.

Sometimes, you do not even realise how much it shaped the way you walk, speak, choose, and think about yourself.

The Weight of Words You Did Not Deserve

Some of the things spoken over you were never meant to land on your heart, but you were younger, softer, and more open.

You carried comments that made you feel too loud or not bright enough.

You carried the pressure to always perform, and you even carried the feeling that nothing you did was quite right.

These words became heavy, heavier than anyone around you ever understood.

God’s Truth Has Always Been Louder

Even on days when those old voices felt louder than your own, God was not silent.

He was speaking constantly, speaking worth when people spoke shame, speaking identity when others spoke labels.

He was calling you loved when you were being made to feel small.

God’s truth does not expire because people mishandled you. His words are still waiting to replace everything that tried to break you, and that’s the truth.

Replacing Negative Words With God’s Truth

Let me show you where the shift begins.

You take the words that wounded you and place them beside the words God spoke. For example:

People said you were not enough. God says you are His workmanship.

People made you feel invisible, but God says He sees you and has called you by name.

When people acted like your efforts did not matter, God reassures you that your labor is not in vain.

People treated you like you had to earn love, but God is saying nothing can ever separate you from His love.

Look at this:“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” — Psalm 139:14

This is God reminding you that your worth was settled long before anyone had an opinion about you, but you need to understand that it is not instant. Some days you will still hear the old voices, but the more you feed your heart with what God says, the quieter those voices become. Slowly, the truth begins to feel like home.

The Soft Rebuilding of Your Heart

You begin to notice the little changes first.

You stop apologizing for things that were not your fault, you give yourself permission to rest, and you do not shrink in conversations as much or catch yourself offering grace instead of harsh self-judgment.

This is the gentle rebuilding God does from the inside out.

Becoming the You God Always Saw

As you heal, you meet a version of yourself that feels new, yet familiar.

That is the version of you God always saw: confident, gentle, and steady.

That you were always there, buried under years of criticism, waiting to breathe.

Loving yourself after all that did not break you is one of the most powerful ways you reflect God’s restoration.

You are not just healing, but you’re becoming whole in the process, and that version of you deserves to be loved fully and very loudly.

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